Balancing the Scales: How to Make Sure He Pays Up (And Then Some)
- ladiesadvicesprink
- Aug 17, 2024
- 6 min read
Alright, ladies, it’s time to spill the tea. If he’s not making your life easier, what’s the point of having him around? You didn’t sign up to be his mommy, maid, or personal therapist. You’re here to live your best life, and if he’s not stepping up to make that happen, then maybe it’s time to reconsider his role in your life. A real man knows that taking care of you is the bare minimum. So let’s talk about how to make sure he’s doing just that—paying the bills, handling the chores (or hiring someone to do them), and making your life easier while you chase your dreams.
1. 50/50? More Like 100/0: Why Women Should Never Settle
Let’s start by debunking the biggest myth in modern relationships: the whole 50/50 nonsense. You’re not here to split the bills, the chores, or the emotional labor. You’re bringing way more to the table just by existing. Your mere presence elevates his status. When a man has a strong, beautiful woman by his side, suddenly he’s the guy who’s got it all together. He gets more respect at work, people trust him more, and let’s face it—he looks good because of you.
The Image Upgrade: We all know that being seen as a “family man” gives him an edge in life. He’s more likely to get that promotion or be trusted with important responsibilities. Why? Because you’re by his side, making him look stable and dependable. So if he’s getting all these perks, why on earth would you go 50/50 on the bills? That’s a hard no.
Provider Mentality: If he’s not willing to pay the bills, then what exactly is he bringing to the table? A real man knows that taking care of his woman is the bare minimum. He should be covering everything—rent, utilities, groceries, and all those little luxuries that make life sweet. And if he’s not? Well, maybe it’s time to trade up.
2. Mastering the Money Talk: Setting Financial Boundaries Early
Now, let’s talk about setting expectations. It’s all about laying down the law early on. If he’s not prepared to be the provider, it’s time to have a serious conversation—or better yet, show him the door.
Be Upfront: Don’t beat around the bush when it comes to money. Make it clear from the get-go that you expect him to step up and take care of you. If he’s not willing to do that, then why waste your time? There are plenty of men out there who will.
Ego Challenge: Here’s a fun little trick—use his ego to your advantage. Next time you’re out shopping and see something you like, casually mention how much you love it, but throw in a little, “Oh, but it’s probably too expensive for you.” Watch how fast he pulls out his wallet to prove you wrong. It’s like magic.
3. Chores? Not Your Problem: Why He Should Hire Help
Ladies, let’s be real—you’re already juggling enough. The last thing you need is to be picking up after him, doing the dishes, or folding laundry. If he’s not stepping up to handle the household chores, he better be hiring someone who will.
Hire Help: A man who truly values you knows that you shouldn’t be overburdened with chores. He should be hiring help to take care of the housework so you can focus on what really matters—your career, your goals, and your happiness. You didn’t sign up to be a maid.
Bare Minimum: You’re already taking on so much—especially if you’re raising kids. The physical and emotional toll of childbearing, the sleepless nights, the endless demands. The least he can do is make sure the house is clean, the bills are paid, and you’re living in comfort. If he’s not, he’s not worth your time.
4. Your Worth Is Priceless: Why He Should Be Covering the Costs
Being a woman is expensive. From maintaining your appearance to managing the household, to dealing with the physical and emotional demands of life—it all adds up. And let’s be clear: if he’s not covering the costs, he’s not pulling his weight.
Beauty Isn’t Cheap: Looking good isn’t just for you—it’s for him, too. Your appearance is part of what makes him look good, so he should be footing the bill for your makeup, clothes, and all those little things that keep you looking fabulous. It’s an investment in his image, after all.
The Real Costs: Childbearing isn’t just a physical sacrifice; it’s emotional and financial too. You’re giving so much of yourself—your time, your energy, your body. If he’s not stepping up to cover the costs and ease the burden, then what’s he really contributing?
5. Flip the Script: How to Get Him to Invest in Your Future
It’s time to turn the tables. If he’s not investing in you—financially, emotionally, and practically—then what’s the point? You deserve someone who’s going to make your life better, not add to your stress.
Plan Big Together: If he’s serious about you, he’ll be serious about your future. And that means saving for a house, planning vacations, and making sure you’re both secure. But let’s be real—he should be the one putting in the majority of the money. You’re already doing enough.
Fund Your Dreams: Whether it’s starting your own business, going back to school, or just taking some time off to focus on yourself, he should be funding your dreams. If he’s not willing to invest in your future, why are you investing in him?
6. Know Your Worth: Never Settle for Less Than You Deserve
At the end of the day, you deserve a man who’s going to make your life easier, not harder. If he’s not stepping up to cover the bills, handle the chores, and ensure your financial security, then it’s time to ask yourself—what’s he bringing to the table?
His Money, Your Money: Remember, his money should be your money, and your money should be yours alone. You’re already sacrificing so much—your body, your time, your energy. The least he can do is make sure you’re taken care of.
You’re the Prize: You’re not just a partner—you’re the prize. And it’s time he started treating you like one. Don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve. You’re worth it, and if he’s not willing to step up, it’s time to find someone who will.
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