Why You Should Think Like a Man and Use Him for All He’s Worth (If You’re Still Dating, That Is)
- ladiesadvicesprink
- Oct 10, 2024
- 5 min read
Hey girlies! Whether you’re single, independent, dating, or just here for the tea, we need to talk about something very important: why it’s time to think like a man when it comes to dating. Now, this blog is for the girlies who still date men (if you’re done with them, no worries, we see you!). But if you’re still on the dating scene, grab a snack because it’s time to flip the script and start using men for your own benefit. After all, why let him waste your time when you can profit instead?
Men: The Original Takers
You know that guy who hits you up at 2 a.m. for a “chill”? Spoiler alert: He’s not trying to watch Netflix. Men are the OG takers, always down to benefit from your energy, love, and maybe even your Wi-Fi password. They’re often looking out for themselves—so why shouldn’t you? Here’s the truth: men have been centering themselves since the beginning of time. They’ve perfected the art of taking—whether it’s your emotional labor, your money, or, heck, even your snacks. (I mean, seriously, why do they always eat the last slice of pizza?)
Now It’s Your Turn
So, why not take a page out of their playbook? We’ve been out here nurturing, supporting, and babying these guys for way too long. Girl, it’s time to stop being the unpaid therapist and start thinking like a boss. You don’t have to be out here breaking hearts—just use your smarts. If you’re going to date, make sure he’s actually worth your time and resources. I’m talking about using men for your financial gain (and I don’t mean becoming his personal chef while he spends your cash on video games).
Avoid the Broke Bums (You Know the Ones)
Ladies, let's set the record straight: no more broke dudes. You know who they are—the ones always “between jobs,” always “figuring things out,” but still somehow living rent-free in your apartment and your life. These guys just want to sleep with you, eat your food, and “borrow” your Netflix login, but they’ll never pick up a check. It’s time to start dating up and saying, "No thanks" to the freeloaders. Why would you give your time, energy, and love to a man who can't even give you basic financial support?
Remember, sis: Broke men are a liability. You’re not his sugar mama or his therapist, and you’re definitely not his free ride. If he’s got nothing to bring to the table (besides excuses), leave him at the curb.
Two Types of Women Men Will Have to Deal With
Here’s the kicker, girlies: men are about to be real shook. Why? Because they’re going to have to face two types of women in this world:
The Independent Queens: These are the girlies who are done with men entirely, out here living their best life, making their own money, buying their own drinks, and thriving. These women don’t need men, and honestly, don’t want them. Go off, sis! 👑
The Savvy Takers: And then there’s the second group, who date men but play the game and play it smart. These women are not here to get taken advantage of. Oh no, they’re here to take advantage of him. If he’s got money, then girl, let him spend it! Don’t let him waste your time unless you’re benefiting from it. No more selfless sacrifices—you’re getting your due.
Men won’t know what hit them. Either they’re dealing with independent women who want nothing to do with them or dating queens who will run their wallets dry. Either way, girlies, men are about to face a tough reality where the days of freeloading are over!
Men Are Finally Getting a Taste of Their Own Medicine
Let’s face it: men have been getting away with bare minimum behavior for years. They’ve been centering themselves in relationships, expecting women to cook, clean, care, and support without doing the same in return. It’s time they get a taste of their own medicine. So if you’re still dating and you’ve got a man in your life, use him the way he’s been using us.
Let him pay the bills—you deserve to be treated.
Take him out shopping—he’s been spending on himself for long enough.
Make him invest in your goals—if he wants to be in your life, he needs to add value, period.
It’s Okay if You’re Not Dating Men (We Still Love You)
And to the girlies who’ve said “bye” to dating men entirely—we love that for you. You’ve figured out the cheat code, and we’re cheering you on from the sidelines. You’re thriving, and we love to see it! You’ve chosen to prioritize your independence, and that is a mood we can all aspire to. Whether you’re dating or not, the key takeaway here is that women need to stop settling and start winning—whatever that looks like for you.
Final Thoughts: Get What You Deserve
Ladies, it’s 2024. We’re done with being used and taken advantage of by men who offer little in return. If you’re dating, make sure you’re benefiting from it. If he’s not giving you something in return—whether that’s financial support, love, or emotional security—then why are you wasting your time? Get your coin, secure your bag, and make sure you’re putting yourself first. You deserve the best, so don’t settle for a man who isn’t willing to give it.
And if that means thinking like a man and manipulating the situation, then so be it. After all, they’ve been doing it for years, haven’t they?
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